Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Things That Make Me Feel Loved

Things that my boyfriend does or from my point of view things boys need to do to make this girl feel loved <3

Giving me gifts for no reason
Hugging me unexpectedly
Kissing me unexpectedly
Taking time to understand my feelings
Helping me with chores around the house
Praising or complimenting me on my achievements
Making something for me created from the heart
Giving me your undivided attention
Looking into my eyes when speaking to me
Just looking into my eyes and smiling for no reason
Leaving love notes for me <3
Holding my hand when I least expect it
Singing to me :)
Holding me tight when a slow song is playing
Playing with my hair
Grabbing me to unexpectedly slow dance
Friday, April 1, 2011

The Truth About Love Compatibility

I've had my 'Aha' moment. I've come to the realization that in order to be in a long lasting relationship with someone you need to have similar values and personality traits that run deep to your core that will work with each other. Hobbies, interests, or other similarities can always change over time. Just because you and your partner both love to ski or share other hobbies, doesn't mean this person is your soulmate. One of you could always hurt yourself and forever be unable to do certain physical activities that you have previously shared together. Having separate hobbies and interests may be healthier than having all the same ones, it forces you to seek interest and respect the individuality of the other person.

The things that DO matter in a lasting, loving, long-term relationship are core values, morals, and personality (more so temperament, since personality also can change over time). This puts me at ease because my boyfriend and I have ALL the same values and morals, apart from what we are interested in objectively. We may have different senses of humor but ultimately our temperament works really well together. He is easy and I am slow-to-warm-up. I guess that's where the extroversion in him comes into play and the introversion in me stands. He is going to help me be more adaptable and I will help him become more hesitant and reserved about things he carries through in his daily life.

So, what it comes down to is; you don't have to love each others' hobbies and interests, you just have to respect them. Respect for each others' differences goes a long way. Love is not easy. It's something that doesn't just happen on its own, it's something you have to create and work at.
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