Thursday, July 7, 2016

Engaged! Now What?

I'm so very excited to announce that (finally) I'm engaged! I mean we're engaged! For the last, I don't know, FIVE years (or ever since Pinterest was invented) I have browsed the wedding Pinterest category and made an embarrassing amount of secret wedding boards. I felt like I could have an impromptu wedding at any moment.


Weddings are so much more than pinning 4 carat princess cut rings and flower crowns. There's just so many real life aspects that really make me want to hire a wedding planner. I have emailed the popular venues in town and a couple are already booked for every single Saturday next summer through October. How!? I have browsed 70 million photographers in the area. How do you choose "the one"?!

How many people do we invite? We want it small, but at the same time don't want to leave anyone out. I want to be surrounded by all the people I love and cherish, but once you get over a certain guest number, the prices shoot up. Every single thing seems like a dilemma.

But. Yes, there's a but. It's all fun. This is my forte; planning. Coordinating. I have come to love it. Teenage me wouldn't believe it.

I have to talk myself down, though. I can not give into the pressure of having an over the top wedding. I don't need all the bells and whistles. I don't need to rent a limo. I don't need to have a mini orchestra. I don't need to serve filet minion. Every single wedding website and blog make me feel pressured into having this picture perfect magazine-worthy wedding, when in fact, that's not for me. I want it to be beautiful, but not obnoxious. Something cute, simple, and quaint. And those who know me, I gag at the word traditional anyway.

Any wedding tips are SO welcome, you guys!

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

The Biggest Thing I've Learned in My Twenties Thus Far

A lot of doors close when you're in your twenties. It feels constant; hearing "No" in all its forms. You're not only trying to find yourself, but build a career, build a family, build relationships, and build wealth. Something is always bound to go wrong while you're building, and you just have to push through it. I have failed. Nothing dramatic, but, yes, I have failed. There are thousands of quotes about failure that I basically come across daily on social media outlets. I have ignored every single one of them. I thought they were just words, like they weren't speaking to me. It's like I thought they were only speaking to everyone else in the world BUT me. It has now hit me, though; all the times I've failed at something, I've let it pile up and define me. I've kept a tally of my failures like they were etched on me as a tattoo.

I am not my failures. I've come to the realization that all those quotes about failure, i.e. "Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently" were right (I could go on and on with more quotes). Failure is not final. It's inevitable. It's a wrong turn. The only way to avoid it is to live cautiously. But you will also miss out on the chance to succeed as well.

Every time a door shuts, a new one doesn't automatically open. Sometimes you'll spend days, months, or even years stuck in that limbo land trying to unlock or pry open a new door. Sometimes that door is a trap door. Sometimes it's a door meant for someone else. Eventually you find YOUR door. Eventually you walk through the door and look back and wonder how you almost gave up.

THAT's what being in your twenties is all about. Living the exact advice you've previously ignored. The life changing realizations. Ones that leave me sitting here with tears in my eyes not because I'm sad, but excited for what's to come. Excited that I have failed, because it's bringing me closer to new opportunities. I have been taking this long, messy gravel road and though I have taken wrong turns and ended up on beaten paths, I have been able to navigate through it and find a better path. There are no signs telling you where to go, you're essentially feeling in the dark. You bump into things and hurt yourself, but that only means you're finding your way.

I can't believe I'm realizing something now that everyone else has probably already realized. But it feels good to have a wave of optimism and self realization. I want to remember this feeling. I want to share it. 
Monday, May 2, 2016

Worry, As Told By a Mother

As I got to the grocery store parking lot the other day, an old 90's Buick was sitting in the middle of the crosswalk, blocking the way to cars trying to park. I muttered some comment about how old people shouldn't drive. I eventually snuck around the car and peeked over to a short, 5 foot woman getting out of the car with her headscarf on, probably protecting her newly permed hair from the strong winds that day. I looked at the driver and he was a thin upper 80's aged man, whose head was sitting at the top of the window. These were basically my grandparents if they were still alive. I went from mildly annoyed to a quivering swollen face; immediately getting a headache from trying to hold my tears in.

I've lost all of my grandparents before I ever got pregnant. And while I am sad about it, I can accept it. They were old, it was their time, and most of all I don't think they would've really liked our world anymore. I don't think their hearts could've handled it.

When I'm reminded of my grandparents I often get teary-eyed, not just because I miss them. It's because I'm reminded of what I cannot afford to lose. And no offense to them, but that sad feeling I get when I think of them is only a fraction of what I would feel if I would ever lose someone closer to me.

I have this irrational amount of worry. I worry about driving in my car. I worry when I let my daughter play in the front yard. I worry when someone else is babysitting her. I think of all that could happen and multiply it by ten. And now I'm wondering, am I going to be THAT mom that doesn't let her ride her bike to the park or ride in the car with her friend's parents to get ice cream? Or go to sleepovers? This is just the beginning of the lifelong worries. It'll be never ending, I know this. The innocent sleepovers will turn into boys, which will turn into college parties.

I will cross that bridge when we get there. That is all I can say for now. I just wanted to write about my biggest struggle as a mom. I don't know if it's fixable. But I do know that it has been a positive tool as well, imagining disasters. I have the ability to see the worst possible scenario and in-turn, be so incredibly thankful when everything turns out to be okay. I may be a worst case scenarioer, but I am so so so appreciative of what I have every single day. 
Thursday, March 31, 2016

10 April Fools Pranks to Play On Your Spouse

Sometimes we are on the ball with April 1st, but sometimes we forget. There's a chance your significant other might be on the ball and know your tricks right away, but on the off chance they might not remember, here are some ideas!

1. Get a doughnut box (from Dunkin or something) but put fruit and veggies inside and set it on the counter in the morning.

2. Put a ridiculous ad on craigslist and use your spouse's phone number asking for texts only. One year I put an ad on for free tickets to the midnight showing of Twilight and used my boyfriend's roommate's number :D
Tuesday, March 22, 2016

40 Hipster Baby Name Ideas

You guys. I have an obsession with baby names. I have a list on my iphone notepad that keeps on getting longer. Too bad I'll never use 99.9% of them! So I figured I would share the love with you all! My favorite hipster name right now is Pabst. Just kidding :)


1. Zara
2. Eleanora
3. Delilah
4. Prue
5. Cleo
Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Mira is 3!

Mira turned 3 on Friday and we had a little party at our house for her. She had so much fun, but most of all she got to enjoy tons of sweets. She's obsessed with candy, so we turned it into a birthday week. Lucky. I wish I still got birthday weeks.

Height: 86th percentile
Weight: 32 lbs, 66th percentile
Sleeping: Sleeps through the night, typically from 9PM to 7:30-8AM
Eating: Besides snacking on fruit, pretzels, yogurt, and string cheese, she lives off of chicken, peanut butter sandwiches, and cheese sandwiches. Extremely picky. Sometimes she'll eat spaghetti or mac and cheese, but she has to be in the right "mood".
Bathroom: Has been completely toilet trained for a little over month now and is able to wear underwear to bed because she stays dry. She uses public restrooms, porta potties, stranger's bathrooms, everything. We started this process last August and hit lots of rough patches, but she's finally got it down for good. We're really proud! 
Books: She has too many favorites, but currently loves the little mini board books, ballerina stories (Talulah), and loves to check out new ones from the library. 
Shows: Current favorite is Galaias my Big Big Friend
Play: Loves her cat piano, her ride-on car (she got that for pooping in the public toilet for the first time), anything princess, dancing, painting, coloring with markers, lugging her dolls around in shopping carts and strollers, and her new trike.
Skills: She memorizes books (though some think she might be actually reading them), uses chairs to reach things she wants after we've told her no, have I mentioned her memory is a steel trap? She's a great storyteller, does jigsaw puzzles, draws specific shapes, knows all her colors of course, skips, and gallops!
Monday, February 8, 2016

Reese's Valentine Heart Cookies Recipe

Why should we only make peanut butter blossoms during christmas time? These cookies are so delicious I find every excuse to make them year round. I salivate just thinking about biting into the peanut buttery goodness. 


1/2 C granulated sugar
1/2 C brown sugar
1/2 C creamy peanut butter
1/2 C butter
1 egg
1 1/4 C all-purpose flour
1/4 C corn starch*
3/4 tsp baking soda
1/2 tsp baking powder
1 pkg Reese's hearts
extra granulated sugar in a bowl

*the corn starch makes the cookies extra soft, guys! You can just use 1 1/2 C flour if you don't have any, but I seriously recommend :)


1. Pre-heat oven to 325 degrees. Mix the sugars with the butter, egg, and peanut butter in large bowl. Then add the rest of the dry ingredients until dough forms. I added some red food coloring to make a tie-dye effect. 

2. Refrigerate the dough for a half hour. Take out and make one inch balls and lay out on cookie sheet. 

3. Bake for 10 minutes or until edges are golden brown. Unwrap the Reese's hearts while you wait. When finished, immediately press the hearts into each cookie. 

4. Move cookies to cooling rack. You might want to even stick them in the refrigerator as well. Those Reese's hearts take forever to cool off!

There you have it! 

Soft, chewy, chocolatey, peanut buttery goodness! :D
Thursday, January 21, 2016

Gently Weaning a Toddler: 5 Tips

I never thought I'd nurse Mira until she was two years old. I remember the extremely accomplishing feeling of making it to 6 months, because those were honestly the hardest months breastfeeding. Then making it to one year, I couldn't believe. By that point I was working and having to pump 3 times a day, though. It sucked. After a few months of pumping at work, I decided to stop. Pumping that is. I just hoped that I was able to produce for Mira in the evening. Which I was! It was the best of both worlds; my production slowed down enough for me not to get engorged, but I had enough for her once I got home.

For a long time she was nursing 3-4 times a day (and getting up in the middle of the night to nurse). When she hit 18 months, she started asking for it herself, which was adorable. "Hummy?" she would say. She was also finally sleeping through the night! 18 months seemed like a significant enough age to start weaning; I just wanted to have my body be completely mine again. So I tried to wean the cold turkey way. Kind of. She would ask for it, and I would turn her down. She didn't take that too well. She'd throw an absolute fit and it broke my heart. For a child who had always nursed on demand, of course this was going to happen. I'd end up giving in within 20 seconds. I tried several times to replace her hummy inquiry with a sippy cup of milk. She was not into that. The worst was when we got home after picking her up from daycare. She wanted to nurse the second we walked in the door; I literally couldn't even take my coat off or go to the bathroom without her having a mental breakdown. She's one hard kid to wean!

After trying a few different things, we eventually cut down to two feedings a day, and after a couple months, once a day. Then towards the end it was once every other day. And as of today, it's been 10 months since she's nursed. All through trial and error. But every child is unique and handles weaning differently, so here are 5 things that worked for us.

1. Have daddy put her to bed. This can be any significant other, babysitter, etc., but not every mama has someone at home with them for bedtime, so I realize this can't work for everyone. Really anything you can do that changes the normal night routine could suffice. This made cutting out our bedtime feeding the easiest one.

2. Replace with a favorite snack or drink. I thought that giving her a sippy cup of milk every time she asked to nurse was the best thing, since it was the closest thing to the boob, but it wasn't. She wanted nothing to do with a sippy cup when it came to nursing. I tried a few other choice snacks and that didn't work either. I figured out it had to be her absolute favorite snack, something that brings her comfort like nursing does. For us, it was puree pouches, like Happy Tot and Plum Organics that got her to forget about nursing. She is definitely food motivated, this is the *key* thing that really helped the weaning process.

3. Do not wear low cut shirts. Out of sight, out of mind. Mira would be just fine crawling all over me like a jungle gym, unless I had cleavage showing. Then her face was all up in the hummy and there was no turning back

4. Set times of day to nurse and stick with them. This is mostly the hardest for weekends when you're not on a schedule. I always made sure to tell Mira "it's not hummy time" if she asked mid-morning or at supper time. I also started the "no nursing in public" rule after she was already a year and didn't rely on it for food. Part of it was that people get judgy (unfortunately), but most of it was just me wanting to keep my boobs to myself.

5. Don't cut out more than one nursing session at a time. Go slowly. Like you can read from above, each time I cut out a session, I would leave it like that for months at a time until deciding to cut out another one. Trying to wean too fast will make your littles feel betrayed and hurt.

So happy for our nursing time together, it was truly a joy :)

Some kids are easier than others. Some are just plain stubborn (like mine)! Take it at their own pace because after all, this is their nourishment, their comfort, and probably their favorite past time that you are taking away, so do not rush them.

Now let's hear from you!
What are some tips or tricks you've learned from weaning?
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