Stop worrying, have fun

I've been trying to figure out a nice way to tell my girl friend what she's doing wrong with men. She is one of my prettiest friends and asks me on a regular basis why a guy isn't texting her back, why another guy won't respond to her calls, why this other guy has been ditching out on plans they've made. This girl has everything going for her but she is too forward with guys. She so badly wants a boyfriend that she puts herself out there the wrong way. Girls; playing hard to get doesn't mean telling guys "I love being single" or along those lines. Don't completely turn them away. There needs to be mystery, not lies. You don't want to talk about marriage or anything right away either. This is, of course, all easier said than done. I haven't had to play the single game for a while now, but I feel like I would be a pro at it if need be.

Honestly I think so many girls are getting nervous because we're in our twenties now and that's when we are "supposed" to settle down. My parents along with many other peoples' parents were married by 20 or 21. So many girls get preoccupied by this marriage ritual that it turns into anxiety. Many of our friends and acquaintances are getting engaged, right and left, and it starts to scare people; thinking they should be next. It's this chain reaction of marriage proposals that create the chaos of hopelessness for single girls.

I love my single friends. I have the most fun when I go out with the girls than anyone else. Going out with my boyfriend is fun, but it's just not the same. I think college would be really boring if everyone stayed attached at the hip with their significant other. Just keep in mind: Who are you without your freedom? Nobody. You end up being a slave to your own stage 5 clinging. It's okay to enjoy your own life and enjoy your significant other's life separately.

Now that I have that covered, girl friends: it's okay to be single! Embrace it. When all else fails, take a look at the Kardashians.

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